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 When finding yourself in a new situation, getting good advice can be most helpful toward avoiding the very bad decisions and the avoidable mistakes.  They are not so useful in making the "right decision" for you.  (Don't confuse getting advice and letting other decide for you.) When finding yourself in a new situation, getting good advice can be most helpful toward avoiding the very bad decisions and the avoidable mistakes.  They are not so useful in making the "right decision" for you.  (Don't confuse getting advice and letting other decide for you.)
  
-When you ask for advice, it is important to understand what you are receiving. Most advice you will get is in the form of a retelling of personal experiences (possibly with embellishment and omissions). A more thoughtful teller may offer personal interpretation and insights. In any case, an advice is highly personal and subjective to the teller.  It behooves you to ask the same question to many experienced people. Find which answers are most relevant to you and your situation.  At the end, you have to add your own interpretation and distillation to extract the "common knowledge"  and "common sense" (that you lack because you are inexperienced) to help you avoid the known pitfalls.  **You still have to make the "best decision" for you yourself.**+When you ask for advice, it is important to understand what you are receiving. Most advice you will get is in the form of a retelling of personal experiences (possibly with embellishment and omissions). A more thoughtful teller may offer personal interpretation and insights on top of the narrative. In any case, an advice is highly personal and subjective to the teller.  It behooves you to ask the same question to many experienced people. Find which answers are most relevant to you and your situation.  At the end, you have to add your own interpretation and distillation to extract the "common knowledge"  and "common sense" (that you lack because you are inexperienced) to help you avoid the known pitfalls.  **You still have to make the "best decision" for you yourself.**
  
 I do not recommend cloning someone else's success story; great successes are not repeatable exactly.  The secret to success is luck; the non-secret is hard work, understanding what works for you, and avoiding avoidable mistakes.  I do not recommend cloning someone else's success story; great successes are not repeatable exactly.  The secret to success is luck; the non-secret is hard work, understanding what works for you, and avoiding avoidable mistakes.